Couples work is all about providing a safe space for each of you. That might seem obvious, but I can’t tell you how many couples have told me that “lopsidedness” was the reason they once tried but gave up on couples therapy.
Having been in a committed relationship for a long time myself, I’ve seen how each person in the couple almost always contributes to the problems in some way. It’s rarely just one person’s horrible behavior.
No one likes to feel ganged up on, so I work very hard to provide balance and encourage understanding between both people during our couples therapy sessions.
Getting perspective in couples therapy…
In a relationship, perception is everything. Regardless of intent or what happens objectively, how you see, hear, and interpret things means everything to you.
When we work together, I’ll help you both look at many different factors to consider how and why things bother you.
Without this bit of detective work, you might only be seeing two dimensions of a 3D problem!
Talk is cheap.
If I asked you what makes someone an excellent communicator, what would you say? Would you mention their confidence? Their clarity? Their tone of voice?
What if I said being an excellent communicator begins with being an active listener?
Most of us weren’t modeled how to listen actively, so it’s no wonder each of you is speaking a different language!
In counseling, we’ll discuss what it means to be an active listener and how that helps you communicate better with your partner.
Love is a verb.
Creating a bond of mutual love, respect, and companionship is work. There’s no doubt about it.
But it’s worth it. Imagine where your relationship could be in five, ten, or even 20+ years if you establish a strong foundation now!
Most marriages end before they even get off the ground. And some that get off the ground still end because they don’t have the right manual to get them through the tough times.
After learning about the “Gottman relationship errors” in a group counseling class I used to teach, one woman (in her second marriage) tearfully remarked that she might have saved her first marriage had she known these things back then.
Wouldn’t you rather learn the essentials of a loving relationship as early as possible?
I want to hear your story. Contact me or call me today for your free consultation: (817) 809-8801.
